Why people have extramarital affairs?
Chat about a loaded issue that no one wants to speak about, that’s it. Amusing thing, affairs have been going on from millennium. Affairs can be filled with troubles, cause sadness, and other problems. In addition you should wrap your brain around all the other issues, there’s that truth and sincerety thing, finances, age difference, faith upbringing, guilt, and on and on. I expect there will be some strong opinions about some of this.
For the purpose of this article I should classify an affair as a long term, maybe years long relationship of a sexual nature between two individuals of whom one or both are married to other persons, lonely wife looks for dating.
Why do people have extramarital affairs? There are as many answers as there are women seeking affairs. I am conserned mostly though it is only the human condition, the need for affection, belonging, to be wanted and cared for, the caring for others and wanting to be loved and appreciated. Here are a several explanations I have run across.
Physically we as humans are all sexual creatures. Nature has us set up to reproduce, to have sex. Sex is pleasing and fun, and sex makes us get away the real world for a short period of time. This ecstasy exists for whatever amount of time we are able to keep the adrenalin levels elevated enough. Somebody can turn the wish on and off, some are brilliant at controlling it and others are so-so at best. Though we all have it, young and mature, able bodied and not so able. It is the Human condition. For some of us it is the sex act itself that drives us. For some of us it is the stimulation of the hunt. For some of us it is the seduction, for some it is the caring for another human being, for some it is the desire to be appreciatedloved, for some it is the whole romance thing. These desires and yearnings can be so strong they rise above the taboos people has erected against extra-marital affairs. For many individuals the yearnings will defeat their fears and make them risk the anger of not only their family, but society too. So why, what is the means?
Sex Addicts, maybe some of us are. Sex is extremely good, better then drugs, a natural high. If you are in this group of biologically obsessed sex addicts and can find away to have an affair and not wound your family or anyone else? You will need to lessen the jeopardy you are taking. If you have the approach that a good affair is one that is beneficial to everyone, then good luck.
No love at home, or no romance. I suppose this is the largest grouping, colossal truly. There are many couples whose marriage is over, but they are comfortable in the way they exist, and upsetting the extended families is not on their list of things they wish to do. You love your spouse but there is no romance. Then there are the children to think about. Your money are so entangled. You need the medical insurance, and so on. There are a lot of reasons to stay together besides love and sex.
Physical reasons, there are some people who can not have sex. They have physical reasons that prevent them implementing the sex performance, at least not with their othere half. An extramarital affair occasionally solves the trouble while keeping the marriage intact.
Ignoring, sadly this is a regular cause I fear. One or the other, usually the male is sexually neglecting his lady for a number of reasons. As a male I really am grateful to you guys neglecting your wives and making them obtainable to us guys of romance, making them “milf wives” But I still think it is despicable that you are neglectful. Then there is the spouse who is neglectful until the wife or husband has an affair, then they condemn them for doing so, when they where the catalyst. Those who neglect, then condemn, are not only neglectful, but evil.
Something is just missing in the marriage, I can not put my finger on it, but its not there. Maybe its romance that is missing, maybe it is a lack of love, maybe caring is gone, could be it is the closeness, could be neglect. Could be we have just grown distantly, our common concerns diverged. Could be it is that what I want, and what I want to do the rest of my life, is diverce of what you want. Maybe I simply don’t know what I want from the marriage anymore. Maybe, just maybe I miss that sensation that when I am with you, it just feels right.
The first reason people give is, they search for the passion that is missing and so very much longed for.
There are other reasons, the feeling of power, to escape, for economic gain, for retribution and so on. I am sure there are more reasons why people have affairs then these. I only stop because if this gets too long no one will read it.
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